Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use.
Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use.
Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as household chores or employment.
Rationalizing and accepting: Any behavior by the codependent conveying a rationalization or acceptance of the significant other’s drug use.
Cooperating and collaborating: Any assistance or involvement by the codependent in the buying, selling, adulterating, testing, preparing, or use of drugs.
Rescuing and subserving: Any behavior by the codependent overprotecting the abuser and subjugating himself/herself.
- Have difficulty completing what they start
- Are merciless judges of themselves
- Are extremely serious about themselves
- Look for approval and recognition
- Rarely allow themselves to have fun
- Remain loyal even when loyalty is undeserved
- Have difficulty forming and maintaining close relationships
- Are never sure what is normal behavior
- Are extremely responsible or irresponsible
- Feel somehow different from others
- Tell unnecessary lies when truth would serve
- Tend to overreact to changes when they are powerless over the situation
- Tend to be impulsive without considering alternatives or consequences leading to loss of self esteem and feelings of loss of control.