Kids of alcoholics don’t talk, trust or feel

When growing up, children of alcoholics learned the basic tenets of survival in their family:

  • DON’T TALK,
  • DON’T TRUST,
  • DON’T FEEL.

As adults, they will consistently experience problems unless they are willing to make changes in their lives. Claudia Black suggest that by making changes in their lives, they can break the cycle of destruction caused by alcoholism or dysfunction so that their children will not have to experience the same problems and pain. Among the suggested steps to break this cycle include:

  • Become involved in Al-anon and/or Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) meetings, and in individual therapy with a counselor.
  • Develop support systems by making those close to you aware of your decision to seek counseling.
  • Learn how to ask for help.
  • Recognize that you have the right to talk about these issues and you have the right to feel.
  • If you have children, learn about child development and take a course on parent-effectiveness to learn the skills for relating to your children that you probably did not learn growing up.


Growing Up With Addiction As Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults


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