Children in alcoholic families have a negative self-image because they believe themselves to be the cause of their parent’s alcoholism.
An unrealistic standard of perfection is set by the child who believes that if he were somehow perfect, the family’s problems would dissolve. In adulthood, this creates an “all or nothing” mentality: if perfection is not achieved, the adult child sees himself as a failure.
Adult children are unable to accept themselves as the valuable people they are.
Accepting the fact that one is a flawed and imperfect human being is a primary issue for ACOAs. Imperfections must be accepted in order to gain healthy self-esteem, go forward with goals and feel successful, both personally and professionally.
An awareness of basic talents and abilities should be acknowledged and accepted. Learning to accept compliments and not taking blame for issues beyond the ACOA’s control are important steps in developing a positive self-image.
This post has 9 parts as follows;
- FACING REALITY
- COMPLETING PROJECTS
- ACHIEVING HONESTY
- ACCEPTING ONESELF
- LEARNING TO HAVE FUN
- DEVELOPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
- DEVELOPING INTERNAL VALIDATION