The alcoholic family functions in an abnormal way as a means of coping with the alcoholism.
The household, daily life and parental behavior are often chaotic and unpredictable.
Consequently, the adult child has no conception of normal family life and has to guess at what is appropriate. Fantasies about “perfect” families and “perfect” lives were often used by the growing child to survive in a very unhappy environment. As an adult, these fantasies prove disappointing because they are not realistic.
There is no such thing as normal, only what is functional or dysfunctional for an individual, and what serves his interest best. Learning to trust basic instincts about proper behavior is helpful for the ACOA learning to trust himself. It is important to confront reality and learn to handle conflict. By facing problems as they arise, the ACOA develops confidence in his problem- solving ability and no longer uses fantasy as an unrealistic standard or coping method.
This post has 9 parts as follows;
- FACING REALITY
- COMPLETING PROJECTS
- ACHIEVING HONESTY
- ACCEPTING ONESELF
- LEARNING TO HAVE FUN
- DEVELOPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
- DEVELOPING INTERNAL VALIDATION