Psychology of Children with Alcoholic Fathers

Psychopathology of Children with Alcohol Dependent Fathers.

SUMMARY; Objective: In this study, we aimed to research cognitive, behavioural and psychopathological differences between children of fathers with alcohol dependency (ACOA’s) and children of fathers without alcohol dependency (non-ACOA’s).

Note: Cross posted from Recovery Is Sexy.com.

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The Art of Living

The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.

– Bernard M. Baruch

Naturally, we wish to avoid pain and difficulty, but life experience and a measure of reflection show us that most of what comes our way is beyond our control. We’ll never outwit all the possibilities for trouble, even if we live to be 100 years old. We have often failed to learn from trouble because we cast ourselves in the roles of passive men and victims. We pointed outside ourselves and said, "Look at what is happening to poor me!"

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The Twelve Nightly Questions

My sponsor gave me the following 10th and 11th step inventory and told me to write it out every evening before I go to bed.

The Twelve Nightly Spiritually Focusing Questions

1. Was I resentful?

2. Was I selfish?

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The Six Mistakes of Man by Cicero

People in recovery will know that abstinence from addictive substances or actions is only the beginning of recovery. The writings of the various 12-Step Fellowships is full of spiritually sound ideas and goals.

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Renew the Sexual Passion, Please

 

NewsMedia_123988[1] People in recovery may be returning to a relationship or trying to rediscover the passion of earlier times. This article from Readers Digest may be of help.

You and your partner can rediscover intimacy and pleasure with these tips.

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10 Benefits of Love

Theresa Walsh Photography“I need somebody to love,” sang the Beatles, and they got it right. Love and health are intertwined in surprising ways. Humans are wired for connection, and when we cultivate good relationships, the rewards are immense. But we’re not necessarily talking about spine-tingling romance.

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24 Workplace Actions of ACOA’s

 Woman Adult child of alcoholic, addict Adult Children of Alcoholism / Addiction in the Workplace

ACOA’s often transfer behaviour learned in childhood into other adult spheres of life. In true co-dependency style these often confuse and confound us.

Some of these are;

  1. We confuse our boss or supervisor with our alcoholic parents and have similar relationship patterns, behaviors, and reactions that are carryovers from childhood.
  2. We confuse our co-workers with our siblings or our alcoholic parents and repeat childhood reactions in those working relationships.
  3. We expect lavish praise and acknowledgment from our boss for our efforts on the job.
  4. Authority figures scare us and we feel afraid when we need to talk to them.
  5. We get a negative gut reaction when dealing with someone who has the physical characteristics or mannerisms of our alcoholic parent.
  6. We have felt isolated and different from everyone around us, but we don’t really know why.
  7. We lose our temper when things upset us rather than dealing with problems productively.
  8. We busy ourselves with our co-workers’ jobs, often telling them how to do their work.
  9. We can get hurt feelings when co-workers do things socially together without asking us, even though we have not made an effort to get to know them and join in the social life.
  10. We are afraid to make the first move to get to know a co-worker better, thinking they will not like us or approve of us.
  11. We usually do not know how to ask for what we want or need on the job, even for little things.
  12. We do not know how to speak up for ourselves when someone has said or done something inappropriate. We try desperately to avoid face-to-face confrontations.
  13. We are sensitive and can get extremely upset with any form of criticism of our work.
  14. We want to be in charge of every project or activity, feeling more comfortable when we are in control of every detail, rather than letting others be responsible.
  15. We may be the workplace "clown" to cover up our insecurities or to get attention from others.
  16. We are people-pleasers and may take on extra work, or our co-worker’s tasks, in order to be liked and receive approval from others.
  17. We do not know how to be assertive in getting our needs met or expressing a concern. We may have to repeatedly rehearse our comments before delivering them.
  18. We have felt that we do not deserve a raise, promotion, better workspace, or a better job.
  19. We do not know how to set boundaries, and we let others interrupt us. We can accept more work without knowing how to say ‘no’ appropriately.
  20. We are perfectionists about our own work and expect others to be the same and have the same work ethics and values.
  21. We become workaholics because it gives us a feeling of self-worth we did not get as a child.
  22. We may jump from job to job, looking for the perfect position as the substitute for the secure and nurturing home environment we did not have.
  23. We get upset when people do things that affect us or our work without asking us first.
  24. We have a high tolerance for workplace dysfunction and tend to stick it out in an unhappy job because we lack the self-esteem to leave.

After the ACOA laundry list of characterisation.

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Alcohol Dependency, Alcohol Addiction Treatment & Recovery: Abbeycare Foundation

Alcohol Dependency, Alcohol Addiction Treatment & Recovery: Abbeycare Foundation

Abbeycare Foundation
A Dedicated Alcohol Treatment Clinic for Alcohol Detox
& Alcohol Rehab

Abbeycare Foundation is the only alcohol specific private treatment centre in the United Kingdom. The staff team at Abbeycare, are a solid group of qualified and experienced professionals, many of whom are in recovery themselves and have been through the process of alcohol treatment/rehabilitation. In focusing and specializing in alcohol misuse we have a very high success rate in alcohol recovery outcomes.

We provide you with a safe and positive environment where any client suffering the effects of problem drinking or alcoholism can take the opportunity to explore and identify the changes they will require to make to enable recovery from alcohol abuse.