AA Works for Steven Adler

Steve Adler Back from the brink and ready to rock

After a two-decade battle with addiction, Guns and Roses member Adler has managed to put together six months of clean time, he told The Daily Times this week — and that makes the past six months a rebirth of sorts.

"Making it one day is a long time, and I’ve made it, like, six months," he said, voice filled with jubilation and the enthusiasm of newfound sobriety. "The last time I did anything goofy like that was on the show ("Sober House," a VH-1 reality show spin-off of "Celebrity Rehab," both of which featured Adler), when I got arrested (last summer). I’ve been so lucky, and I’ve got a great team of people around me; I’ve got my best friend Slash back in my life; and I’m happier than ever.

"It’s like I’m seeing things for the first time. To have survived everything I went through — a stroke, the band — and get a second chance at life, it’s crazy. And I’m so grateful I did those two shows. As much as I despised rehab and the whole AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) crap, it works!"

"I just wanted to give myself a chance to get better than I was yesterday. That first few weeks were the toughest, because once the drugs wear off, all of the emotions come out. The hardest part to get through was that first month."

Full story at The Daily Times

See also;

The twelve-step recovery model of Alcoholics Anonymous

AA logo 2 The twelve-step recovery model of AA: a voluntary mutual help association

Alcoholism treatment has evolved to mean professionalized, scientifically based rehabilitation.

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is not a treatment method; it is far better understood as a Twelve-Step Recovery Program within a voluntary self-help/mutual aid organization of self-defined alcoholics.

The Twelve-Step Recovery Model is elaborated in three sections, patterned on the AA logo (a triangle within a circle): The triangle’s legs represent recovery, service, and unity;

  • The circle represents the reinforcing effect of the three legs upon each other as well as the "technology" of the sharing circle and the fellowship.
  • The first leg of the triangle, recovery, refers to the journey of individuals to abstinence and a new "way of living."
  • The second leg, service, refers to helping other alcoholics which also connects the participants into a fellowship.
  • The third leg, unity, refers to the fellowship of recovering alcoholics, their groups, and organizations.

The distinctive AA organizational structure of an inverted pyramid is one in which the members in autonomous local groups direct input to the national service bodies creating a democratic, egalitarian organization maximizing recovery.

Analysts describe the AA recovery program as complex, implicitly grounded in sound psychological principles, and more sophisticated than is typically understood.

AA provides a nonmedicalized and anonymous "way of living" in the community and should probably be referred to as the Twelve-Step/Twelve Tradition Recovery Model in order to clearly differentiate it from professionally based twelve-step treatments.

From; Borkman T. The twelve-step recovery model of AA: a voluntary mutual help association. Recent Dev Alcohol. 2008;18:9-35.

See also;

Recovering Addicts Add Value to Workplace

 

Mark Elliot Recovering Addicts Often a Workplace Plus and Add Value to Business.

Treatment helps employees come back stronger, insiders say

Employees on the road to recovery deserve a second chance.

That’s the mantra of Mark Elliot (pictured), a Toronto radio talk show host who is also a recovering addict.

Elliot is open about his past addictions and his downfall in the radio realm, but his recovery story shows he has also climbed back up the ladder and now dedicates his time to helping others who have taken the wrong detour.

He will be the first to admit that drugs, alcohol and the workplace don’t mix. But he’s also a staunch defender of recovering addicts who want to return to the workforce.

“I think most employers seem to get it today, they seem to understand that employees who go into treatment come back as better employees for the most part,” says Elliot. “Employers like it because they get back an employee they don’t have to retrain. They (recovering addicts) don’t take as many sick days. They are dependable, reliable and sober.”

Full story at; Business Edge

Woman’s story inspires alcoholics

Woman’s story inspires alcoholics

Nagpur, India: More than 80 families in Nagpur got a ray of hope recently as they heard how an ordinary housewife had succeeded in de-addicting her husband, who had been an alcoholic for 15 long years.

The woman, who gave a stunning speech at the recent gathering of Al-anon – a worldwide support group for families of alcoholics-said that she had convinced her husband to accept his problem and show willingness to break the vicious cycle. "The entire family was behind him and we got great support and help from Al-anon and the techniques taught by them," she stated.

More at; Times of India

Public Humiliation

I was a member of a youth group as an adult leader. One of my duties was to set up a public awareness display at the local exhibition day. All the equipment was delivered on time and was sitting in a heap at the site.

I had taken a day off work to organize everything on the day before the show. However, I decided to have a few beers as well and that ended everything.

That evening I passed out in the Darwin casino and was awakened by a security man kicking me in the thigh. I got up and went back to the bar. Eventually I somehow got home and woke up late in the morning.

Going to the exhibition site I noticed that my skin had no memory. I could pinch a piece of skin and it would stay puckered, not returning to its normal shape. I had drunk so much I was dehydrated with little moisture in my skin. I was as dry as a bone – so to speak.

When I got to the site I began to put things in place. I was alone until another leader turned up. He took one look at me and said I was in no condition to represent the youth group. He left. I then began to vomit violently while being watched by people attending the show. I put away all the gear and left.

On the same day I had to see my lawyer about my divorce. He took one look at me and asked if I was an alcoholic. My eyes were red and watery, my skin was clammy and smelly and I was finding it hard to focus. “Of course not,” I replied, “I thought I was once, but I can control it now.” He shook his head and finished the interview.

I left and went to have a hair-of-the-dog at the nearest bar.

I never went back to the youth group and my divorce was finalised quickly.

The next week I went to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. I was ‘nearly’ ready to stop drinking.

Alcoholism takes away all the things that are nearest and dearest to the alcoholic. I loved my wife and kids, I had a great affection and respect for the work of the youth group. But, I still had more to lose.


The Forgotten Virtue (Strength for Life) What 35 Years of Running Have Taught Me About Winning, Losing, Happiness, Humility, and the Human Heart (Daybreak Books)


Challenged to Drink More

I was too young to legally drink. So one day after work I found the seediest bar in town and sneaked in the side door. I ordered 2 cans of beer to take away. The barman said “What 2 cans, that’s not the way to become a man. You need much more.”

I had reasoned that if I only ordered 2 cans it would not be challenged and I would go to another bar and get some more.

I drank alone on the banks of the River Torrens keeping an eye out for the police. One walked past and said nothing. I was OK. I knew I looked older that I was. I bought some more and got drunk.

Another time a mate and I were away on a fishing trip. He bought some grog and I was going to buy a small bottle. He said, “That will not last you long, get a big bottle.” I did and enjoyed the nights fishing, drinking and mateship.

A mate told me he was going out to the winery to get some wine in casks as it was too expensive at hotels and bars. I went with him and bought several casks of second grade wine. We were drinking for two weeks before we went back to the winery for more.

About age 19 a friend asked me to have dinner with him and his wife. I thought that was unusual but bought some beer and went. When I arrived he said “You can leave that (the beer) in the car, we don’t drink in this house.” I thought I never knew they were religious.” But I left the beer and had dinner.

After awhile he said to me “You have been drinking a bit lately Fred.” I said “So what?”

“Well, my father used to drink a lot and he ended up in a terrible state.” He said.

I replied, somewhat taken back, “What’s that got to do with me?”

“We were wondering if you know what your getting into?”

“I sure do.” Was my indignant reply and left to drink the hot beer in my car – alone.

I never returned to that friendship.

By challenging my drinking they had challenged me to drink more. But, the friendship I felt in that particular challenge never left me. From that time on I somehow knew that I had a drinking problem but I wasn’t ready to do anything about at that stage.

This experience reminds me of the saying that I have heard many times in sobriety – ‘First the man takes a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes the man.’


Revelations of a High-Functioning Alcoholic Money Drunk, Money Sober; 90 Days to Financial Freedom


I Drank Too Much with Wrong Effect

When I was drinking it was simply terrible.

I was playing the drums with a group of mates and a bottle of port was passed around. I would have been about 16 years old and still at high school. A girl who had shown interest and I was interested in her came around to hear our music (such as it was). I went up to her and talked for a bit and then told her I was drinking. She shrugged her shoulders as if to say ‘So what?’ and walked off. I was not bothered and took another swig at the bottle.

When I look back that was a sign of things to come. On that occasion I distinctly preferred drinking to a relationship with a girl.

The next time I drank I had a blackout. The same mates and we were at a beach party. I remember the early part of the night, then nothing until I found myself vomiting several hours later.

A family party next saw me being the life of the party. Trouble is I don’t remember anything for several hours. I came to as we were leaving and everyone was giving me compliments and asking me not to leave. Mum and Dad bundled me into the car and I wanted to go back.

After awhile Dad said “Fred, you drink too much and it has the wrong affect on you.” Well, I dismissed that as coming from an old man who no longer knew how to enjoy himself – the generation gap.

What I didn’t know was that his father was probably an alcoholic and he really did know what he was talking about. Dad’s words were to be a prophesy of my life story for the next 17 years. I drank too much and it had the wrong affect on me.


Removing Character Defects, Steps Six and Seven, Second Edition

Drop The Rock: Removing Character Defects, Steps Six and Seven, Second Edition


Dr Bob’s story of the AA Camel

The Alcoholics Anonymous Camel symbol

The camel each day goes twice to his knees.
He picks up his load with the greatest of ease.
He walks through the day with his head held high.
And stays for that day, completely dry.

Spiritual Principles

  • Prayer
  • Faith
  • Spirituality
  • Sobriety – One day at a time.

Dr Bob, physician, and a cofounder of Alcoholics Anonymous – ". . . would explain prayer by telling how the camels in a caravan would kneel down in the evening, and the men would unload their burdens. In the morning, they would kneel down again, and the men would put the burdens back on. ’It’s the same with prayer,’ Dr. Bob said. ’We get on our knees to unload at night. And in the morning when we get on our knees again, God gives us just the load we are able to carry for that day.’" Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers (1980), page 229

CAMEL PRAYER

"The tasks of the day can pass with ease
when a camel or I start on our knees.
One Master we serve, the camel and I,
and stay for that day completely dry."


Attached Files:

Treatment and Recovery Personal Profiles

When Marjorie Hawkins entered treatment for alcohol and drug abuse in 1985, she seemed a hopeless case. Unemployed, homeless, and addicted to alcohol and heroin, Hawkins found herself at Carrick Hall, a Washington, D.C. treatment center, where she began, almost literally, to see the light.

"I went in," Hawkins recalls today, "and after the first week, I realized I could hear what they were saying. The fog had lifted. I learned that my biggest problem was my addiction, that if I didn’t drink and do drugs every day, I could be a normal person."

Fourteen years later, Hawkins is testament to the contention that treatment works. Ever since she finished her one-month in-patient stay at Carrick Hall and embarked on its six-month aftercare program, Hawkins has been a productive, tax-paying member of society, compiling an unbroken string of employment -all of it related to substance abuse treatment-and sobriety.

"I owe my life to the treatment center and the fellowship of AA," she says.

Today, Hawkins is project director of the Substance Abuse and Addiction Recovery Alliance (SAARA) of Falls Church, Va., which "celebrates recovery and tries to put in place support systems for people who are just out of treatment or who are just going in."

These are people, as Hawkins knows from personal experience, who need all the help they can get. Society, after all, tends to perceive drunks and drug users as people who are paying the price for moral weaknesses best left ignored or shunted aside.

Nobody can tell the story about the wisdom of treatment better than those who have experienced it. But as Dick Dillon, vice president and chief operating officer of Bridgeway Counseling Services, Inc., in St. Louis, says, the recovery community is "a culture of anonymity." That is, people like himself who are in recovery (it’s been 18 years for him) are not accustomed to going public with their personal stories because of the moral stigma that too many people still attach to them. "It’s not a disorder that has a lot of champions," he says.

But that doesn’t mean that people aren’t trying to remove the perception. The Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery (CCAR), for instance, organized in 1997 to advocate for treatment. According to its associate director, Phil Valentine, CCAR has been lending its support to a state plan for a new alcohol and drug policy that would shift focus from provider to client and to make the search for services more "user-friendly."

Besides its function of advocacy for improved public policy, Valentine says, CCAR’s overall message is one of "focusing on the positive side of recovery."

Valentine’s own story of recovery dates back 12 years when he finally began treatment for his drinking, which had cost him his family and his job as a golf pro at a golf course. Valentine has remarried and is the father of a daughter who, he says, marvels at the stories of his days as a drunk, as though hearing about a foreigner.

Valentine has come forward with his own story, like Hawkins and Dillon, to make a point: "We return to society and become productive," he says. "And rarely are we heard from."

"There’s still a tremendous amount of ignorance among the general public about addiction," says Dillon. "There’s still a lot of people who place the blame on (addicted people). They say they’ve done it by their own free choice."

But he points to himself as a case in point. Eighteen years ago, at age 29, Dillon finally went in for a 28-day in-patient alcohol treatment program in a hospital following "a confrontation with family members who said, ’Get your act together.’"

As a person in recovery, Dillon says, his life has changed completely. When he was a drunk, Dillon recalls, he was a salesman working on a commission basis but without motivation.

Today, he laughs at the memory.

"I was underemployed and I was going broke fast," he says. "I probably pay more in state tax now than I made as income before I went in for treatment."

From Join Together Online

For education – How to Help an Alcoholic see www.BriefTSF.com



43 Things Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Adult Child Rewarded by Program

You got me thinking..about how my life used to be before attending Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings versus today…

I used to suffer depression but now with medication and therapy, I don’t

I used to have rage attacks, but after working the 12 steps, I don’t

I used to feel hopeless ad helpless but today I feel powerful and in control of my life

I used to have NO relationship with my children but today they live 10 minutes from me and end every conversation with, I love you mom

I used to have NO relationship with my grandchildren but today I am the BEST Nana I know of.

I used to have a poor relationship with my hubby but today we are actually teaching marriage groups together

I used to HATE and be scared of my sexuality but today I am healing

I used to HATE men for my incest but today I’m healing from this pain

ALL these changes have come about as a result of actually WORKING the 12 steps.

I encourage everyone IF you really want to see those beautiful changes occurring in ALL your relationships, work the steps!

and keep coming back, it works when you work it and since you are worth it, work it

thanks for allowing me to share…J.